At the beginning of the school year, we held grade-level meetings to discuss the 6 Full Value behaviors, which are the framework for our character education program. They are:
BE HERE: listen attentively, give your full effort, be aware of those around you
BE SAFE: follow school rules, respect others’ space, keep hands to self, think before acting
BE HONEST: tell the truth, use kind words
COMMIT TO GOALS: figure out what you want to do, set a plan, follow through
LET GO AND MOVE ON: forgive mistakes, look toward the future instead of dwelling on the past
CARE FOR SELF AND OTHERS: help others, include others, treat others as you would like to be treated
These tenets cultivate a warm, healthy, and supportive atmosphere here at Stonybrook.
We held grade-level meetings again today because, now that we are just past the midpoint of the school year, we wanted to come together again to discuss principles that help make Stonybrook a place where our students want to be; where they feel welcome, valued, and ready to learn. This time, we focused on 3 big ideas (you can see the PowerPoint presentation we used as the basis for our discussion):
What is “joking around?”-Over the course of the year, we have seen instances where students get into conflicts, or are made to feel badly, when what one student interprets as “joking around” is received by another as something less benign and more hurtful. We spoke about the difference between joking around and teasing/making fun.
What is empathy?-We discussed the idea of “putting ourselves in others’ shoes,” and how this can help us to avoid or resolve conflict.
How can I resolve conflict?-We talked about the power of students’ words, and that they have tremendous power within themselves to resolve conflict. We also talked about the difference between “giving someone space,” which can be a healthy way to cool down before resolving a conflict, and “ignoring,” which can be a hurtful way to block someone out. We also talked about when it is appropriate to seek help from someone else in resolving a conflict.
These 3 ideas, which go hand-in-hand with the principles of Full Value, served to create valuable discussion today. The real value, however, will be in how these ideas play out as we move forward.
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